Do Not Burn Yourself Out Helping People!

Do Not Burn Yourself Out Helping People!


It has been proven time & again that interdependence is the highest level of development. Many things (even nature) thrive better on one or more mutual dependence. Consequently, we cannot escape having to help one another at different points in our lives.

However, helping somebody (whether of higher or lower status than us) shouldn’t be a disturbing issue. You’d probably have noticed that if something is really destined to happen, it doesn’t matter whether you play your role or not. If you do not help a particular individual, the person would end up being helped by another person. So, why sweat it! Do not crucify yourself down if you can’t help.

The easier way out is to politely let the person know that you regret that you can’t help him/her at that point in time due to personal reasons, especially if helping the person might cause you inconveniences that you really do not want to sacrifice.

In essence, never ever burn yourself out helping people. If you have to, do just what you can do with a pure self-less heart. It is your heart that matters.

Love & Charms

Real Love, Fake Love & ‘Love Portions’


About a few years back, where I was living, there was a public gossip that my brother is very handsome. A particular lady who just moved in started disturbing me that she wanted to meet my brother on that ground. At first, I took it as a compliment and I tried to get my brother to meet this enchanted damsel.

To my surprise, the lady kept asking for him as if it was a task to be completed. My brother also who used to frequent my place almost weekly did not come for months, till I left that place. The lady would utter words like, “AY, why are you hiding your brother from me? I just want to meet him, that’s all” or “why don’t you want me to meet your brother, do you think I can do anything to him?” I did not read any meaning to it.

About the time I left that house (I packed), she had a quarrel with some of her girls. That’s when we heard that they had a native doctor who made charms for them and the cause of the quarrel was that one of them took the other’s boyfriend.


Is it possible that she planned to charm my brother?

Leadership & Decisions

Leadership comes with responsibilities
Responsibilities come with decisions
Decisions bring consequences
CONSEQUENCES-We must accept and adequately prepare and carter for!
Who can blame the sacked bank CEOs and MDs; they are facing the consequence of their decisions-very difficult decisions!

Learn Today to Succeed Always!

Preparation precedes success


Understanding precedes action (preparation)

Thoughts precede understanding

Learning precede thoughts (thinking)

Learning is the Precursor of success

Cocoon & Butterfly

Cocoon & Butterfly








See what turned into a butterfly!

God seem to have laid down secrets of human advancement.
Airplane prototype is already in birds and submarine in fish.
I believe God has used the butterfly and the cocoon to show what is inside of us only if we allow it.
What is inside us is much beautiful than what we see presently.
The world is beautiful, Life is good and creations are wonderful

Only if you believe it.

Peek Into Yourself

Looking back, I see memories & regrets
When I look at the future, I see my hopes & aspirations
In the past, I remember pleasant experiences, pleasurable moments
And yet how much better I could have improved

One thing I have learnt all along is that, the fact that I believed I could have done better shows that
"I should heighten my hopes and desires for tomorrow and do much better the things that I do now"

Check What You Are Wearing!

Every single day we live weaves its elf into the ‘garment’ of our lifetime-our existence. From the day we were born, we have been designing for ourselves an apparel of a particular fabric, texture, color and size. This is a direct result of the kinds of people we associate with, the places we spent a lot of time. In short, the kind of people or type of things we allow to weave itself into our personal & special apparel.
Now, our garment is clearly portrayed by the way we view ourselves plus how others view us. We cannot undo what has been done neither can we undo the fabric of the last part of our lives. Whether we are still young or old (not so bad), we can decide which type of fabric to be woven into the picture of the rest of our lives. In essence, we can determine who to and who not to take into our tomorrow since this decision would have a strong impact on our garment fabric.
What I believe is that you can use others to make a better garment (that is beautify our existing garment). We can enhance the way we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us by changing
· the people we spend time with
· the books we read
· the places we go to and most importantly,
· the interpretation we give to issues and circumstances around us.
Separate the people in your life according to priority-
· Those with the highest impact on your personal development
· Your loved ones
· Those you’d love to meet
· Those with strong potential for affecting you positively and
· Those you just like

Do not play with the list- do not include ‘not very important people’. The less they are, the easier it is to manage them.
Next time you have to visit or call someone, you already have a list of people you should pay more attention to. Set aside time (on phone or face to face) to keep in touch with them regularly. Do this for the names on your phone, your internet cycle of friends.
Bottom line; create for yourself a niche among your top cycle of friends. This is to ensure sustainable advancement in every part of your life. This way, you can be actively involved in knitting your garment. You don’t have to be grey-heading before you realize your life is like a movie.
That day when you are really old, you should smile from your ‘heart of heart’. This is your mission- your task. Go take what belongs to you, your life.
See you at the top!